Introduction – Welcome Choices

Linda welcomes everyone to the wedding

Option One

I hope this day marks a beautiful beginning of the first day of the rest of your life, with renewed commitment to do the things that are important to you; the things that keep you healthy, happy and safe from harm. May you carry on with love in your heart, wings for your flight and endless possibilities to reach your goals.

I hope this day reminds you of what a gift your life is, to yourself and to others. I hope you can grasp this significance because you are so special, and I hope the love and care you have given others will be returned to you today. Get prepared to receive.

May every problem you have make clear a promise of solution, every question an answer, every goal a method of achievement. May love’s wonder and protection blanket you with perfection and the inspiration to do wonders on the road to your dreams.

May no fear touch your doorstep, may no doubts cloud the windows of your soul. May every impossibility be turned into a working blueprint that will enhance your confidence to finish whatever task you’re engaged in.

I wish you boundless energy and passion and gardens of plenty with brightly coloured wonders as you look into the mirror of tomorrow and seize the day today. It is yours… Celebrate… This is the marriage of (the happy couple)

Option Two

(The happy couple) have come here to make public their love for each other: to give notice of their truth; to declare their choice to live and partner together – out loud, and in your presence, out of their desire that we will all come to feel a very real and intimate part of their decision, and thus make it even more powerful.

This is the time that (the happy couple) have chosen to become husband and wife. We are here today to witness their commitment to each other in the special bond of marriage and to wish them happiness, abundance and joy in their life together.

Within its framework of commitment and loyalty, marriage enables the ever-growing tolerance, patience and respect for each other to sustain a deep lasting and life-affirming relationship. We who are witnessing your marriage today hope that is above all, one that enables each of you , and as one, to be the grandest version of the greatest vision you ever held about who you are.

Option Three

Friends and family, we have come together here in celebration of the joining of (the happy couple). There are many things to say about marriage. Much wisdom concerning the joining together of two souls has come our way through all paths of belief, and from many cultures. With each union, more knowledge is gained and more wisdom is gathered. Though we are unable to give all this knowledge to these two who stand before us, we can hope to leave them with the knowledge of love and its strengths and the anticipation of the wisdom that comes with time. The law of life is love unto all beings. Without love, life is nothing. If we learn no more in life, let it be this.

This is not the first cycle of their lives together. Rather than start new, this ceremony represents to (the happy couple) a new season. Just as spring is a time of planting, and summer a time of growth, this cycle represents the harvest of growth, maturity and abiding respect. Past success, failures, disappointments and joy simply nourish this harvest, providing a rich and stable place from which to grow together as the cycle of life continues.

A union such as this unites not only these two people, but brings together two halves of a circle. When a man and a woman pledge their hearts to each other, they not only create a home and family of their own, they also carry with them the support, goodwill and hopes of all that care for them as individuals.

This union is a confirmation to the families from which you come that they are worthy and that their contribution to your lives shall be continued in the home that you have created.

In a close and personal way, your marriage is a unity of these two families that bore and raised you. By uniting together, each of you join the family of the other, to bear its strengths and promise into the future as it lies within your ability to do. Having this acknowledged is an important matter.

Option Four

(The happy couple) have invited you, their family and friends, to be here today to witness their declaration of love and commitment, and to share their joy at being married.

From this day forward, they will be husband and wife and they are delighted that you, their most cherished friends and family, have joined them to help celebrate this great love they share.

Option Five

Welcome dear friends and family! We are here to bear witness to the joining of (the happy couple in marriage, to celebrate their love for each other, and to share the joy of this memorable occasion. (The happy couple) stand here before us to proclaim their love, devotion and commitment to each other.

Marriage is one of the most important relationships that two people can commit to in their lifetime. Marriage offers the greatest challenges to overcome but in return, it gives us love, strength and friendship. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger and even anger is felt more strongly and passes away more quickly. In marriage we marry a mystery.

The person we marry is someone we love, but their depths and intricacies we will come to know only in the long unraveling of time. We know enough about our beloved to know that we love each other, and to imagine, as time goes on, we will come to love them even more. To our knowledge we add our willingness to embark on the journey of getting to know each other ever so wonderfully more. Swept up by a sense of love, warmth, hope, awareness and adventure, we agree to come together for the mysterious future, to see where the journey will take us.

Throughout the memory of man, the founding of a new home has been noted as an act of a high and holy order. It has been celebrated with a service of marriage in sacred groves, in humble meeting houses, under vaulted arches, in temples with ancient rites, and in bombed out cellars with hurried words. Yet neither state, church nor family relations can, by the sole weight of tradition, ceremony or expectation, create a genuine joining of man and woman. Such a wedlock comes only through the ripening of love given freely.

(Say to couple) It is in your power, therefore, and your power alone to bless this service, by the sincerity of your purpose, the strength of your common devotion, and the enduring character of your dedication.

Option Six

Friends and Family welcome to this special occasion, the day when (the happy couple) take each other’s hand and begin their life together as husband and wife. They have asked me to specifically thank you all for coming to share this day with them. Your support, friendship and love is truly cherished. Today (the happy couple) proclaim their love and commitment to the world. They have asked you, their friends and family to share in the joy of this occasion, a day that will be one of the most memorable of their life and they both thank you for being such an important part of it.

(The happy couple)’s marriage today is a celebration of the love and respect. It is making visible the unseen bonds that already entwine and holds them together. Marriage is the choosing of one special person to walk beside another throughout the journey of life. Marriage today is a choice – freely, openly, gladly made – of a life companion, partner, friend and lover. Today you are publicly making that choice; you are choosing one another to journey together as life-companions.

Your love takes courage and isn’t a simple after thought but you have committed to each to share the highs and lows that life put us through. Your courage is not something that should merely be thought about fleetingly but should be given the same thought and care that you both give it. Love takes courage, work and honesty, as does marriage. Marriage is a true act of bravery and trust as sometimes love is wonderful in itself but with the true understanding of each other from a partnership, being each other’s best friends, a lover and a soul mate you know what the final act of marriage that you take today tells the world. Today your marriage says that your trust in each other is based on your love for each other and you couldn’t imagine your life without one another for a single minute. Sophocles is believed to have said “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.”

Option Seven

Friends, I call upon everyone here present to be a fellow witness with me in this marriage between (the happy couple). We are here, not only to witness their commitment to each other, but also to wish them every happiness for their life together. Real love between a man and a woman is perhaps the highest experience that is possible to humankind. Such love reduces selfishness and deepens personalities, but above all gives life new purpose and meaning.

Love in marriage is something beyond the warmth and glow, the excitement and romance of being deeply in love. It is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your partner as about your own. But real love is not being totally absorbed in each other. It is looking outward in the same direction together. Marriage is a blessing that includes so many components such as love, cooperation, commitment, happiness, trust, respect, caring, wisdom, joy, and nurturing. (The happy couple) are truly grateful that you would be such an important part of this day, their day to become husband and wife. They want you all to know that they feel blessed to have you in their life and a part of such an important day for them.

Option Eight

(The happy couple) welcome you, their families and friends. Each of you has given something of yourself into their life. They want you to know that your love, guidance and encouragement will forever be appreciated. It is fitting then, that you should share today in this celebration of their commitment to each other to live their lives as one.

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A happy marriage must be created and worked for. The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” every day. It is keeping the romance alive. It is standing together facing the world. It is not expecting one person to wear a halo or the other to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, tolerance, understanding, appreciation and a sense of humour. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. Marriage is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, the dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. You must not only marry the right partner, but be the right partner. (The happy couple) know that this is what they will build their marriage to be and they look forward to each of you being an important part of it.

Love is always patient and kind, it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited, it is never rude or selfish, it does not take offence, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasures in other people’s sins but delights in the truth, it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end. To make this relationship work therefore, takes more than love. It takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. While love is our natural state of being, these other qualities are not as easy to come by. They are not a destination, but a journey. (The happy couple)’s love doesn’t start from this day fourth, but it is something they have built together, that they know will continue to grow and flourish. They know that their story is only part way written and today is just another chapter in their story, their love. They know that they need each other, want each other and know each other more then they know anyone else on earth and to not have each other is a world not worth thinking about. Their love is their own and their pride in that love is so clearly visible today to each and every one of us.