First Poem – Reading, Ritual

Opportunity for family and friend’s involvement

First Poem – Reading Choices

Option One - Apache Wedding Prayer

Now you will feel no rain,
for each will be shelter for the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
for each will be warmth for the other.
Now you will feel no loneliness,
for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons,
but there are three lives before you:
his life, her life, and your life together.

May beauty surround you both
on the journey ahead and through all the years.

May happiness be your companion
to the place where the river meets the sun.
Go now to your dwelling
to enter into the days of your life together.
And may your days be good
And long upon the earth.

Option Two - Friendship

It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round.
However, without doubt, it is friendship which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel.

True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life –
it is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship,
it is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony, 
and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic.

True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings, without destroying our sense of worthiness. 
True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments, and encourages us to grow to our best potential.

This couple came together as friends, they pledge to each other not only their love but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.

Option Three – The happy couple

We celebrate the love that brought you to this day.

With love that deepens through many years. May you know its meaning and its mystery. How you become truly one in sharing yourselves with one another, and yet remain truly two in your own uniqueness.

May your home be a place of happiness for all who enter it, a place for growing, a place for music and a place for laughter.

May it be a place of hope and strength for all who enter it, especially for those entrusted in your care. May those who are nearest to you and dearest to you, constantly be enriched by the beauty and the energy of your love for each other.

Option Four - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Option Five – From Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

Love is a temporary madness.

It erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.

And when it subsides, you have to make a decision.

You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together
that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness,
It is not excitement,
It is not the promulgation of eternal passion.

That is just being “in love” which any fool can do.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away,
And this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground,
And when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches,
They find that they are one tree and not two.

Option Six – Yes, I’ll marry you - by Pam Ayres

Yes, I’ll marry you, my dear, And here’s the reason why;

So I can push you out of bed, When the baby starts to cry,
And if we a knocking. And it’s creepy and it’s late,
I hand you the torch you see, And you investigate.

Yes, I’ll marry you, my dear, You may not apprehend it,
But when the tumble drier goes, It’s you that has to mend it,

You have to face the neighbor
Should our ­­­puppies attack him,
And if a drunkard fondles me
It’s you that has to whack him.

Yes I’ll marry you,
You’re virile and you’re lean,
My house is like a pigsty
You can help to keep it clean.

That sexy little dinner
Which you served by candlelight
As I do chipolatas,
You can cook it every night!!

It’s you who has to work the drill
And put up the curtain track,
And when I’ve got PMT it’s you who gets the flack,
I do see great advantages,
But none of them for you,
And so before you see the light,
I do, I do, I do!!

Ritual – Choices

A Wishing Box

Guests, family and friends write messages to the bride and groom on their wedding day. The messages are placed in the box, which may be opened many years later, usually to commemorate a special occasion such as an anniversary or poignant birthday.

Hand Fasting

The bride and groom drapes a ribbon of their choice, material and colour across their hands during the ceremony, representing marital unity.

Sand Pouring

Each contributor is given a specific colour, taking it in turns to add the sand to the container in varying concentration and intensities. The overall effect of the resultant layered sand is to signify the importance of each person’s contribution towards the welfare and moral support of the wedding couple.

Candle Lighting

Traditionally there are three candles. The respective mothers light one of the side candles and together they light the centre candle. This signifies the unification and acceptance of each other’s families.

Wishing Stones

Each person at the wedding is given a stone, which is cast into a body of water nearby. Although this ritual is best conducted near a river, pond or beach, it can easily be adapted to include a large bowl of water. As each stone is cast, the person throwing the stone, makes a wish or blessing for the wedding couple.

Warming of the Rings

Family members hold the rings for a moment, thus “warming” the rings with their wishes and blessings, and then pass them on to the next person.

Option One -During this ceremony () and () will exchange rings. These rings are visible sign of their commitment to one another. As this ceremony proceeds, we invite family and friends to take part in the warming of the rings. We ask that you wish them health and happiness, and all that is noble in life. I ask that each guest touch them for a moment, warm them with your love and make a silent wish for this couple, and their future together. When these rings come back they will contain, in their precious metal, that which is more precious, that which is priceless – your love and hope and pledge of support for their union. These rings, now warmed by those you love the most will forever show the world you are encircled by the love and blessings of family and friends and that the two of you are now of one heart.

Option Two – Words are powerful, but fleeting, and the sound of them is soon gone. Therefore, the wedding ring becomes the enduring symbol of the promises we have just heard. The ring is round, like the repeated cycles of the year, spring, summer, autumn, winter and spring again, for a marriage we must weather all seasons.”